It is hard to cope when someone you are close to dies.

Some young people find that it can lead to feelings of wanting to hurt themselves or to die. These emotions can be very hard to explain to someone else and can leave you feeling very alone. However it can be helpful to talk to someone you trust if things are getting overwhelming. This might be a parent, carer or teacher. Some people find it easier to talk to someone they don’t know like someone at Cruse.

To reach the Cruse Bereavement Care Youth Helpline between 9:30am and 5:00pm, call 0808 808 1677

If you are having suicidal thoughts OR if you feel like you need immediate help with these feelings talk to one of the following organisations:

Samaritans 08457 90 90 90 (UK) 116 123 (ROI) or Childline 0800 1111

Here are some other suggestions from young people who use this site, on ways to cope if you are having suicidal thoughts or are self-harming.


"One piece of advice I have is it may be hard but keep your chin up, put a brave face on and dont ever feel so trapped you have to do stupid things to yourself.  Trust me, I have been there before and it was the worst mistake I made."

"Just think of it this way.  You might see them again one day so don't end your time here otherwise what are you going to talk about. Hang in there!"

"When I was having problems coping with everything in my head it helped me to write stuff down."

"Try not to focus on dying, think about all the things you have thought you might want to do and go and do them without thinking about it. Just go!"

"Focus on things that will happen near in the future that you will enjoy.  That is what I do, even though it is hard, it makes you want to stay here, to see that event or get that something off someone."

"Find a different way of chanelling your feelings like visiting places that you and that person shared or write a poem about them, just anything that helps you think about them without upsetting you so much that you feel the need to self harm."

"The only thing that stopped me taking the last step were the people around me (my family).  I'd never told them what was happening and didn't want them to feel guilty for not knowing and not helping me, if I just ended my life without telling them. I still haven't told them what happened to me or how I felt but I've spoken to other people about it and that has helped."

"Don't do it or you will regret it, I am so happy I never did.  Think about your family and how sad they would be and all your friends, how much you would be missed. Everytime you feel like this just think about the good times you have had."